Vivian Fried Kidney Transplant

Vivian Fried Kidney Transplant

From Jim Fried

Vivian needs a transplant- she has been on dialysis for over 4years and is deteriorating. . . The love of my life needs your help NOW! Please read more...

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Update #180

28 days ago

It has been 9 months since @bettydemartini gave @vivianfried the gift of life. Vivian's numbers are great and her strength is SLOWLY returning. She continues to light up my life!
In the coming weeks she will continue to rest and recover. Our goal is to get her fully healthy again - we are on path but the road is still long. Thank you all for your positive energy and continuing prayers.

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We found Vivian's kidney using Facebook and Craig's List . A beautiful soul we did not know answered our call - Betty Dimartini.

Watch here as they meet for the first time: 

https://www.local10.com/health/miami-woman-will-get-a-life-saving-transplant-thanks-to-a-stranger

Vivian is now in recovery. We still have huge bills and will have going forward. 

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Our historic post follows:

Vivian Fried -my wife-  has end stage renal disease. She entered end-stage on January 3, 2014 when she was found catatonic on the floor of our home by her caregiver.

She needs a donor and we need help with expenses. 

Vivian is registered with Renewal a spiritual group based in New York that helps living donors with the transplantation process. They use New York Presbyterian (NYP) Hospital and Jackson Memorial's Miami Transplant Institute (MTI).

If you want to volunteer to be a donor please email R1125@renewal.org to get the process started.

Vivian is ALWAYS upbeat and positive! Check out her Facebook feed by clicking this link--- http://bit.ly/VivianFriedFacebook

She is CONSTANTLY sending me positive affirmations via Facebook Messenger -even while I am building this page.

Vivian has not urinated for over a year months. She needs colonics just to move her bowels. She is becoming bloated and has dialysis 6 days a week.

She has not been able to work for 4 years - placing a significant strain on the family finances.

Jim is in a transitional period in his career adding even more strain!

Vivian has been fighting a strong battle- but it is hard and full of disappointments.

Many people have volunteered to be tested and two potential donors have stepped forward that were matches.

The first donor waited for 18 months before she changed her mind.

We found another matching donor – via Twitter. This donor was deemed unsuitable after failing a secondary test.

We continue our search for a matching donor MTI or NYP will accept.

Please email R1125@renewal.org to help today!

Once Vivian is transplanted the financial strain of her continuing absence from the work force will combine with Jim needing to be off of work to care for her for 8 – 12 weeks will put a tremendous additional financial strain on the family.

To ensure Jim and Vivian’s health and financial situation make it through this incredibly tough time, we welcome all donations and prayers.

We are seeking to raise $150,000 at this point. We hope this will be enough to help ensure Vivian's quality of life and care for her.  Costs that insurance does not cover.

Any little bit helps! 

Thank you all for taking the time to read Vivian's story and joining her team!

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
28 days ago

Update #182

It has been 9 months since @bettydemartini gave @vivianfried the gift of life. Vivian's numbers are great and her strength is SLOWLY returning. She continues to light up my life!
In the coming weeks she will continue to rest and recover. Our goal is to get her fully healthy again - we are on path but the road is still long. Thank you all for your positive energy and continuing prayers.

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
about 1 month ago

Update #181

It is impossible to state how much I appreciate all of you that have helped. Last night was @vivianFried 's first "night out" at an "event. We went to see the @marlins @marlinspark. Our team won and in the 4th inning the team honored all of its full season ticket members. We all stood. After the general acknowledgement a team representative brought a goodie bag for my wife and he just light up. She loved the hat they gave her - "ruby" her color - and they gave her a shirt with the team slogan -#justgettinStarted --- LYFE- its is true for us as well. Thank you to the Miami Marlins #showvivlove

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
2 months ago

Update #180

Today is a day we can all give blessings to Vivian. It is her birthday today. Six months ago she got the blessing of life thanks to Betty Demartini

. Last week Viv said something she hadn’t said in years That she felt good. This week we went to the surgeon for her six month check up. We got fantastic news. All her numbers look great and so do all her physical attributes. He got full clearance for physical activity. When the doctor asked how she felt Vivian said that she felt amazing.

We don’t need any other birthday presents. The gift of life is something that is special to give and even more special to receive. Every day is a blessing. Vivian‘s eyes sparkle. My heart is soaring. I dance on air.

We actually have gone out and had dinner at a restaurant for the first time in years. Sat by the bay and held hands which we have not done for years.

So many people have helped us along our journey. There are no words to say thank all of the people that have helped.

Our journey is not over. It is only beginning.

So happy birthday Vivian Fried

Enjoy your new life. I can’t wait to spend every single day with you.

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
3 months ago

Update #179

Today is the 6 month anniversary of @vivianfried getting her new kidney thanks to the love of @bettydimartini - Saturday she said she felt"good" for the first time in years - we went to Lincoln Road for a walk and sat by the bay foe 1/2 hour on Sunday -- #progress #showvivlove

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
3 months ago

Update #178

It has been a hard few weeks for our hero @vivianfried - She has had a low white blood cell count due to her anti rejection medication.
She got a cold and it was BAD! She seems to be shaking the cold...FINALLY! It has not been easy but all the numbers are good - just need to get her stronger in rehab! #showvivlove

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
4 months ago

Update #177

SUMMER UPDATE - @vivianfried remains strong and positive. It has not been easy but we are in a better place than we were last year. Her meds take a big toll on her.
I continue to reach out for business purposes to restart after locating her kidney - If I can help you with real estate services (loans, equity jv's,investment sales, programmatic investing, expert witness, consulting) - 'contact me - its the easiest way to help us.
- thank you again to @bettydemartini for her gift of love
-thank you to all of you for the positive energy and assistance you have given us during these times.
Thank you to Vivian for being so strong and posotive

Love to you all === Please pray for Vivian to remain strong and for her to continue to get better.
JIM

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
4 months ago

Update #176

The test results are back - now @vivianfried has HIGH white blood cell count - She got a good night's sleep - for the first time in weeks. She is continuing to hang in there and fight - cc: @RenewalNews @arisytner @bettydimartini @880thebiz @JacksonHealth @UMiamiHealth #ThankyouAll

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
4 months ago

Update #175

Important Update --
We had a great show last week that gave thanks to all of the folks at Jackson that have helped @vivianfried - But this weekend was hard. We found out that Vivian has very low white blood cell count. We had to have medication sent to us via overnight delivery for Saturday morning. She has been taking the medicine all weekend - PLEASE PRAY FOR VIVIAN !
here is my blog about last week's show:

Kidney transplant pros gather for Vivian’s celebration of life:
We had a celebration of life in the Fried On Business studios recently as some of the key people involved in Vivian’s successful kidney transplantation gathered to share their stories.

Speaking of stories, by now you know ours. About four years ago, I received an emergency call and rushed home to find my wife, Vivian Fried, collapsed on the floor and unresponsive.

We rushed her to the hospital and we found out she needed a kidney transplant. The ordeal began, and it’s only by the grace of G-d and our selfless kidney donor, Betty Demartini, that we are here today.

After a diagnosis, a long process begins that focuses on both education and treatment, said Dr. Giselle Guerra, Medical Director of Transplant Services and Living Donor Kidney Program at Miami Transplant Institute.

“It’s a long road. It’s very tedious, and our job is to make it as easy as possible for everyone that walks in the door. It can be many years before they’re able to get a transplant,” she said.

The goal is not only to treat the patient with the utmost care, but the donor also, addressing every individual circumstance, added Luke Preczewski, Vice President for Transplant at Jackson Health System in Miami. He oversees the Miami Transplant Institute.

Okay, let’s face it: None of this is free. Not only is it not free, it’s not cheap.

That’s where the Jackson Health Foundation comes in. Keith Tribble, President and Chief Executive Officer, said the JHF works with all of the entities in the University of Miami Health System to provide for their financial needs.

Since joining JHF, Mr. Tribble and his team have secured over $40 million in charitable contributions.

One of the Foundation’s latest projects is the Transplant House, which will provide overnight lodging for the families of recovering transplant patients of the Miami Transplant Institute.

More than 2,000 people are waiting for a transplant at the Miami Transplant Institute, Guerra said, adding that the average wait in Florida is three to four years.

You’d think that with more than 2 million people in the greater Miami area it would be fairly easy to meet this need.

But not so, says Guerra. Even among would-be donors who feel fine, a health screening shows that many have health risks that disqualify them.

“We have found people with different illnesses, including cancer, and we’ve actually saved their lives,” she said.

You also have to be psychologically fit, she said, since it’s a lifelong commitment.

At the end of the day, only about 1 in 10 or 1 in 12 individuals are eligible to donate.

And then there’s the administrative side of things.

“Like any business, we have hundreds of people involved in what we do. There’s millions of dollars involved in it, and that’s my role. It’s a weird job, but I’m a businessman who runs a transplant center,” Preczewski said.

“My job is to make our medical experts, people like Dr. Guerra who are truly national experts in what they do, better and more efficient and able to provide the best care in the country.”

A key component to making it through dialysis, through transplantation and beyond is spiritual health and positive energy.

Vivian, for her part, actually upheld me in this process. It was amazing to watch her tackle this situation with drive, discipline and focus.

It also caught the attention of Nour Kawa, a guru at The Sacred Space in Miami. She and a group of women there surrounded Vivian with prayers that her kidney would come and she would survive this ordeal.

“Positivity, as Dr. Guerra mentioned, is absolutely a really, really big part of it. It seems that it’s almost as important as checking those boxes, taking your medicine, following up with the doctor. You have to go to the doctor – and be connected,” Kawa said.

Vivian chimed in: “I just never quit. It was like big writing in front of me, ‘Don’t Quit.’ I went through a lot of challenges, but I know I had the most loving family – my mom, my husband, the transplant team, the best doctors. They were always there for me. And, of course, the people at The Sacred Space. It was the most amazing place for me to find some healing.”

The Miami Transplant Institute is a joint program between the University of Miami Miller School of Medicine and Jackson Memorial Hospital, which itself is one of the largest hospitals in the nation with more than 2,000 beds, said Tribble.

Jackson is celebrating its centennial this year. A $1.4 billion expansion program is under way, and it’s an exciting time.

But the money from public sources – the state and county – is not enough to maintain the level of excellence that folks have come to expect from Jackson, Tribble said. So the Jackson Health Foundation was created in 1992 to close the gap.

Looking for a kidney is incredibly stressful. Sometimes there’s an immediate need to get hold of oneself and calm down. Believe me, I know.

Kawa said there are three things people can do to manage this kind of anxiety:

1. Breathe mindfully. Be conscious of your inhalation, hold it for a moment, and then be conscious of your exhalation.

2. Change your music. The change in vibration will influence your body and your mind.

3. Remember to be grateful. Take a moment to reflect on all of the good in your life.

For her part, Vivian said the people at the Miami Transplant Institute mean the world to her.

“They were there every step of the way. If Dr. Guerra, who’s very busy, couldn’t get back to me, she made sure that her right-hand got back to me. The facility was beautiful. My room was great. They are my family, because I wouldn’t have made it without them,” she said.

Added Preczewski: “When we talk about these facilities, investments, and raising money to build new buildings and things like that, that’s because we want to raise the quality of our infrastructure up to the level of the amazing people that we have. That’s what Jackson is. That’s what’s made this century of care that we’ve been able to provide.”

Guerra said, “We truly believe in saving lives. Vivian is a pure example of why coming to work is not work. We truly believe in making miracles happen.”

Now, people call me all the time asking about how they can help someone find a living donor. The answer is this: There is no answer.

There’s no one individual, system or group that can help. So, here’s my advice: Pull out all the stops. Have everyone you know send your request to their network of family and friends. It’s easier than ever in this age of instant communication. Social media was key in our search for a living donor.

Many are willing to donate, but few are able. That’s where so-called “paired donation” comes in, Guerra said. You don’t have to be a match with the family member or friend who needs a kidney. Your donation to somebody else will free up a kidney that is in fact a match for your loved one.

Call the Miami Transplant Institute at 305-355-5000 for more information about organ donation, and click here to listen to the entire show.

I’d like to take this opportunity to thank G-d, all of these good people, and our heroic kidney donor Betty Demartini for saving the most important person in the world to me – Vivian Fried.

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
5 months ago

Update #174

@vivianfried 's kidney is doing well. Her body is working to catch up. Not easy! SHe is tired a lot. I am so proud of her - she inspires me each and every day!
cc: @RenewalNews @arisytner

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
5 months ago

Update #173

It has been over 3 months since @vivianfried got her kidney. The organ is doing great. Works wonderfully and all tests are good. Vivian's body is playing catch up. After 4 years on dialysis - she is very weak. She sleeps most of the day. She is able to run errands for a couple of hours each afternoon. We are hoping she regains full strength by the end of the year. She is such a hero!
More soon!
JIM

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
6 months ago

Update #172

Viv continues to have slow steady progress. She has limited energy but her numbers are great. We are hoping she can get back to her "old self" by year ned.
SHe is so positive and happy even as she struggles each day - I am SO PROUD!

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
6 months ago

Update #171

Post-transplant challenges remain, but outlook brightens

Real estate finance is my thing. Been at it a long time, and I love closing capital markets deals for my clients.

But the most important deal I've closed in my life was not for a client at all. It was for my wife, Vivian, when I helped her get a life-saving kidney transplant.

That was almost three months ago. You might be tempted to think that's the end of it. That all is well now, and there's no more cause for concern.

Well, things are definitely better. The kidney function is fantastic, and Vivian is slowly returning to health. The water weight is disappearing, her skin is clearing, her eyes are brighter.

But there are still challenges. Vivian's body was weakened by four years of almost-daily dialysis. She is still cognitively impaired, and she can only get out of bed for a couple of hours at a time.

That's just enough time to get to physical therapy, but afterward she is completely drained.

Still, Vivian is a champion. She has not given up on the fight, and my role is to support her in every way possible. I organize her medications and keep careful track of her urine output.

We are eternally grateful to G-d, our kidney donor Betty Demartini, and Chaya Lipschitz (http://kidneymitzvah.com) for matching us up with Betty.

I cannot wait until Vivian is back to herself - and we can once again feel the beach sand between our toes and look up to the stars.

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
6 months ago

Update #170

Recovery has been hard on us both. Vivian and I remain upbeat and positive but her body is having a hard time adjusting to the kidney. She has been up all night - in pain and general discomfort. This happens every night. She sleeps most of the day. Not easy on her. I love her so and it is so hard to watch her struggle. I am so proud of her. Please send prayers and blessings.
JIM

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
6 months ago

Update #169

WOW - this is not easy! @vivianfried has had ner new kidney for almost 3 months - It has been hard. While all tests results are great - recovery is very slow. It's still hard for her to get out of bed for more that a couple of hours at a time. She is positive and happy - she is amazing! Stay tuned for more info.

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
6 months ago

Update #168

Hear my update on @vivianfried - she is #superwoman

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
7 months ago

Update #167

click here to listne to my update on @vivianfried 's progress - http://bit.ly/FOB454V

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
7 months ago

Update #166

Thank you to all of those folks that have given gifts recently. It really means a lot to us!
Vivian continues to have a great recovery! The kidney is working great! Her skin is clearing up and her energy is slowly returning!
Thank you all for the love and support!

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
7 months ago

Update #165

listen to the latest update on @vivianFried 's recovery - the kidney is a champ and so is Viv
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Jim Fried posted a new update:
7 months ago

Update #164

great news this morning - @vivianfried has no pain for first time since transplant!

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Jim Fried posted a new update:
7 months ago

Update #163

HELP US HELP BETTY
Latest update on @vivianfried & @bettydimartino - http://bit.ly/FOB452V
Viv is slowly getting better- Betty is having issues. We need to help her! She can't work & needs us all right NOW -All funds raised today go directly to Betty!
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