Surround Erica with family during treatment

Surround Erica with family during treatment

From Sue Skalicky

Our daughter Erica has been admitted to a pediatric behavioral hospital near Kansas City for 6-12 months of treatment for severe reactive attachment and debilitating depression. We are raising money to see her monthly.

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Update #4

3 months ago

Erica is coming home at the end of February!
Is she ready to handle life back home? Not necessarily. But, she is stronger. She is more knowledgeable about how her brain works. She has a strong desire to make things work. And I can relate. I feel like I get up each day and approach life with what I know that day. I hope for the best and pray for strength to face what may come.
She also has two parents who have learned a lot right alongside her. We have learned the difference between how she thinks and how we think. We've learned that there is so much pain in her first eight years of life that it is going to take a lifetime to look at it, love herself today anyway, and re-write the narration into a story of victory!
Thank you to each and every one of you who have donated money for travel and who have prayed for her on this journey. Please continue to pray. She has a lifetime of healing ahead of her and there will be some rough days. But, we are hopeful that the ratio of bad days versus good days will lean more and more towards the good days.
And if you are looking for a heart to donate towards on this Giving Hearts Day consider Erica's journey. We've been beyond blessed with donations to cover most of our travel expenses, but mental health treatment is very expensive. We want to continue to give Erica all the care she needs. We will leave the fundraiser open until the end of February. Until Erica is back in our home.
If you want to continue to follow Erica's journey I will update occasionally on my blog An Incidental Life. https://www.lifeplotline.com/blog
Thank you for everything!
Thank you for everything!

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Erica has her own story to tell, and I hope and pray she can one day tell it as a story of triumph and great courage. Before coming to join our family Erica spent nearly eight years living with little to no supervision or nurture. Her early years are riddled with neglect, abandonment, and an ungodly amount of abuse. 

Erica's past seven years with us have left her fighting to overcome deep pain, even though we've loved on her and provided every avenue of outpatient care possible. Through much prayer and wise counsel we were able to locate a hospital we feel can help Erica before she turns 18. But, it is 900 miles away. We will work with her and her therapists and other doctors weekly, but need to be there in person once a month. Dave and I both want to go, but the cost is more than our budget can handle. We also want Silas to see his sister as much as possible. 

We foremost welcome your prayers for Erica's healing. We also are eternally grateful for any donation that would allow more of us to love on and work with Erica each month at the hospital. If you are interested in seeing where Erica is at, visit https://heartlandbehavioral.com/ 

Thank you for your prayers and your partnership! 

Sue, Dave, and Silas

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Sue Skalicky posted a new update:
3 months ago

Update #4

Erica is coming home at the end of February!
Is she ready to handle life back home? Not necessarily. But, she is stronger. She is more knowledgeable about how her brain works. She has a strong desire to make things work. And I can relate. I feel like I get up each day and approach life with what I know that day. I hope for the best and pray for strength to face what may come.
She also has two parents who have learned a lot right alongside her. We have learned the difference between how she thinks and how we think. We've learned that there is so much pain in her first eight years of life that it is going to take a lifetime to look at it, love herself today anyway, and re-write the narration into a story of victory!
Thank you to each and every one of you who have donated money for travel and who have prayed for her on this journey. Please continue to pray. She has a lifetime of healing ahead of her and there will be some rough days. But, we are hopeful that the ratio of bad days versus good days will lean more and more towards the good days.
And if you are looking for a heart to donate towards on this Giving Hearts Day consider Erica's journey. We've been beyond blessed with donations to cover most of our travel expenses, but mental health treatment is very expensive. We want to continue to give Erica all the care she needs. We will leave the fundraiser open until the end of February. Until Erica is back in our home.
If you want to continue to follow Erica's journey I will update occasionally on my blog An Incidental Life. https://www.lifeplotline.com/blog
Thank you for everything!
Thank you for everything!

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Sue Skalicky posted a new update:
4 months ago

Update #3

We just got back from seeing Erica again. The weather was horrible, but Erica amazed us with the difficult work she's been doing. She is learning the language of healing, asking for help, and hope. She's learning strategies to solve her inner turmoil without violence. Her therapist is an angel who connects with Erica in a way that is drawing her out.
It's an honor to be a part of Erica's journey. She will face challenges and temptations with attachment her whole life, but we are beginning to be hopeful that she can transition back home and eventually into adulthood.
She was able to move into stage 2 of the three-stage program! Great news!
Thank you for your support and prayers. Please don't stop. She needs prayer and to be encouraged. Her birthday is on Feb. 4. If you are interested in sending her a card message me on Facebook and I will give you her address.

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Sue Skalicky posted a new update:
5 months ago

Update #2

Dave and I traveled to see Erica Dec 20-22. It was wonderful to see her in person and we were able to have her stay with us at the hotel for one night. The following day we all attended a two-hour group session with other kids and parents. We are learning Dialectical Behavioral Therapy right alongside Erica. It is filled with great strategies for everyone! We have purchased DBT cards and are practicing at home with Silas.
There are three stages to treatment and Erica made it from orientation to stage 1. In order to enter stage 2, she needs to make a commitment to the therapy necessary to work towards retraining her brain to not fight or flee. She is very fearful of being vulnerable. Her early childhood was filled with trauma and her brain is stuck in a primal state of self-protection. They would like her to do EMDR. This therapy retrains the brain to form logical reactions to emotions connected to past trauma. But, it is hard work. She's working hard to follow all the rules but is not yet ready to make a commitment to EMDR. But, we believe she will get there as she learns more DBT strategies.
The staff at Heartland is amazing. They know what they are doing and work very well with the kids and their parents.
Thank you to everyone who has donated towards travel expenses. Living in Bismarck makes travel a bit expensive. We are looking at Erica being inpatient for another four to ten months. Also, thank you so much to those of you who have been praying for Erica. Keep it up! Your prayers matter a lot! We believe God will break through and heal her broken heart.
We will be traveling to see Erica again Jan.10-12.

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Sue Skalicky posted a new update:
6 months ago

Update #1

Erica has been at Heartland for a month. Reality is hitting her hard right now and she really wants to be home. The staff has been amazing and the therapy is powerful. But, Erica is the one who needs to choose to receive help and engage in the difficult work. She is struggling. Continue to pray for her.
Dave and I are flying to see her on Dec. 20. If you are interested in sending a card or note with us I know it would be a great encouragement for her. You can mail it to us or, if you are in town, we can arrange to pick it up. Thank you all for your support. Hugs!

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