Stacy's Cancer Fight Fund

Stacy's Cancer Fight Fund

From Stacy Dellorfano

I’m raising money for my fight against breast cancer. Cash goes to what the insurance doesn’t cover, some rather large copays, and potentially some entertainment for Stacy while they recover.

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Update #3

4 months ago

Hello Everyone! Sorry I haven't given an update in a while, things have been rather difficult, but I've got good news to report... we're almost at the end!

About 3 1/2 weeks ago, I had my final chemo infusion. I'm still dealing with some of the after effects of the run, but I've been much better, am starting to see some signs of my hair coming back, and I'm slowly getting back the energy I once had.

The next step is surgery. The chemo shrunk down both tumors in my left breast and the tumors in my lymph nodes to the point where I can have a partial mastectomy instead of a full mastectomy. We hoped that surgery would happen on February 14th, but you know how insurance companies and doctor's offices work... it's now going to be tentatively on March 20th assuming everything goes through.

The surgery will remove what's left of the cancer, and they'll test the first level of my lymph nodes to make sure it hasn't gotten any deeper. It should be an outpatient procedure unless something goes wrong.

Then, 30 - 45 days after that, I'll start a 4-6 week regimen of daily radiation therapy, which is to kill off any remaining microscopic cancer that might remain in that area. After all that, hopefully I'll be cancer-free.

With your help, I've been able to afford more expensive nausea medication (a patch so I didn't have to swallow pills when I'm feeling sick), the two trips to the ER and subsequent hospital that resulted in large copays, things I needed when bedridden so I could sit up and eat like a tray and a backrest, a stool for the shower (oh how wonderful that first shower felt), entertainment in the form of movies and TV shows when I didn't have the strength to get out of bed, food, and probably way more things than I can even think of right now.

I can not thank you all enough. It's been a hard journey, but not having to worry about the financial end of it has made it at least a little easier, and every bit of 'easier' counts.

Even though I've still got cancer treatment to go, I'm going to go ahead and let this close five days from now. Thanks again, everyone!

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Cancer sucks. It really does. Let me tell you the story of how all this happened... 

Our family has had a hell of a year. We lost a family member to cancer, a cat to old age, and I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I found a lump in the early spring, went to my doctor who said they felt like cysts, not cancer, had a mammogram, came back for a diagnostic mammogram and a breast ultrasound, and then got the really really really bad news that what they saw didn’t look good. 

That was right before Gen Con, where I was set not only to host the ENnies (a great honor), but to also take ConTessa to a whole new level with three times the amount of events and our own space in the convention. The biopsy happened days before we flew to Indianapolis, but I wouldn’t get the diagnosis until after we landed back home again by my request. 

I had a wonderful time at Gen Con. I got to do many things, had many emotional conversations, learned I have a really killer group of volunteers to support us, and I just did my best to live Gen Con 50 to the fullest. I’ve been for the past four years in a row, and this was solidly the most fantastic Gen Con I’ve ever gone to... 

...but then reality crash landed around us at the John Wayne Airport in Santa Ana shortly after landing. My doctor stayed late at her office so she could get us the information where we could both get it at the same time (my husband is a teacher and started work the next day). Not only was there a tumor, it was pretty sizable, and has metastasized to the nearest lymph nodes under my left arm. 

Now, I have insurance through my husband. Most of my expenses are going to be taken care of, at least the big ones... but cancer isn’t cheap. All of the labs, tests, copays, and the unpaid time my husband has to take off to get me to appointments and help out pile up and pile up quickly. 

I’m at the very beginning of my treatment, and already I’ve been hospitalized for a few days for a bout of colitis and severe dehydration after the first chemo infusion. 

The plan is to shrink down the tumors using chemo before handling surgery. I’ll be largely out of commission for the next 4-6 months while I undergo recovery. I’ve got some great people helming ConTessa in my absence, and I have a freelance project to work on when I’m feeling well enough to do so, but the ride is going to be expensive and difficult, and I could use all the extra assistance possible.

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Stacy Dellorfano posted a new update:
4 months ago

Update #3

Hello Everyone! Sorry I haven't given an update in a while, things have been rather difficult, but I've got good news to report... we're almost at the end!

About 3 1/2 weeks ago, I had my final chemo infusion. I'm still dealing with some of the after effects of the run, but I've been much better, am starting to see some signs of my hair coming back, and I'm slowly getting back the energy I once had.

The next step is surgery. The chemo shrunk down both tumors in my left breast and the tumors in my lymph nodes to the point where I can have a partial mastectomy instead of a full mastectomy. We hoped that surgery would happen on February 14th, but you know how insurance companies and doctor's offices work... it's now going to be tentatively on March 20th assuming everything goes through.

The surgery will remove what's left of the cancer, and they'll test the first level of my lymph nodes to make sure it hasn't gotten any deeper. It should be an outpatient procedure unless something goes wrong.

Then, 30 - 45 days after that, I'll start a 4-6 week regimen of daily radiation therapy, which is to kill off any remaining microscopic cancer that might remain in that area. After all that, hopefully I'll be cancer-free.

With your help, I've been able to afford more expensive nausea medication (a patch so I didn't have to swallow pills when I'm feeling sick), the two trips to the ER and subsequent hospital that resulted in large copays, things I needed when bedridden so I could sit up and eat like a tray and a backrest, a stool for the shower (oh how wonderful that first shower felt), entertainment in the form of movies and TV shows when I didn't have the strength to get out of bed, food, and probably way more things than I can even think of right now.

I can not thank you all enough. It's been a hard journey, but not having to worry about the financial end of it has made it at least a little easier, and every bit of 'easier' counts.

Even though I've still got cancer treatment to go, I'm going to go ahead and let this close five days from now. Thanks again, everyone!

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Stacy Dellorfano posted a new update:
8 months ago

Update #2

Getting labs and set up for chemo treatment 2/6. Cool gender fluid pride beanie made for me by my bestie’s wife to cover up the patchwork hair I have left.

Your funds have helped us pay for the hospitalization copay, gotten me some support materials for getting around at home, and even some entertainment for when the fatigue gets to be too much. Please keep them coming!

(BIG HUGS)

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Stacy Dellorfano posted a new update:
8 months ago

Update #1

I can not thank you all enough for your support! It's been a bit of a rocky week since leaving the hospital, and Rob's been getting slammed at the school, so I wanted to give you an idea on how your funds are already helping us...

I'm in no shape to go grocery shopping, and Rob's been literally run ragged at work, so yesterday morning I was able to give us both a break and splurge on a grocery delivery from InstaCart. Small luxury, but one we sorely needed right now to cut out one errand, and still get me the nutrition I need.

Thank you again, everyone! I'm going to raise our funding goal since we already reached this one. Additional funds will help make the way even easier for us... things like in-home IV fluid treatments and delivered meals that might even get me doing a bit of work again!

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