#BringCarmenHome

#BringCarmenHome

From Bud Lake

We had a beautiful baby girl through surrogacy in Thailand and now we are trapped here because the surrogate won't collaborate. For now we can cover all personal expenses, but we need help with the legal costs.

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Update #10

almost 2 years ago

Finally the moment we have been waiting for is almost here. The past two weeks we have had the hearing for custody of Carmen and a judgement date has been set for April 26th. We are optimistic, but the outcome is still not certain - there is no precedence of this case and the new surrogacy law has not been applied to many other cases and none with the surrogate mother asking for custody.

We have had to increase our Fundly goal since our original goal only got us through the first few months of lawyer fees and now we are now behind in our payments.

We greatly appreciate the help of all of our supporters. If you have already donated, please do not donate anymore and just help us out by sharing our petition on your social media. If you have just found out about our situation and you would like to make a donation, please make it small...many small donations = a lot of help. Next update will be on April 26th when hopefully we can report that this nightmare is over.

Thank you so much for your continued support!

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For over a year we have been stuck in Thailand.  Our lives have been turned upside down.  Our jobs are in danger, our family is now divided, false allegations and criminal charges have been brought against us. What was supposed to be the happiest time of our lives, bonding with our new baby girl - our daughter and our son’s new little sister - has turned into an absolute nightmare.

After giving consent for us to take Carmen home from the hospital, our surrogate refuses to sign for her passport and to give us the consent document we need to leave Thailand.

She originally said that we weren't an “ordinary” family and that she worried for Carmen’s upbringing.  Then there were many other excuses and allegations including that we were involved with human trafficking.  Finally we have discovered that our surrogacy agreement maybe have been a plot for her to have a mixed-race baby.  The surrogate and her representative have been trying to manipulate the media and the Thai people to turn against saying things that were untrue without any proof, so we made the tough decision to appear in local media and to begin to post evidence in social media to show the world that these claims are false.  We have evidence to prove everything we say.  They don't have any evidence to prove anything.  Luckily, we have the overwhelming support of the Thai people behind us.  It is very touching and truly amazing.

A new law went into effect on July 30 that outlaws surrogacy for foreigners, BUT includes a temporary provision to be applied to all children born prior.  This provision effectively removes parental powers from the surrogate and grants them to the intended parents who commissioned the surrogacy. This law “does the right thing” in giving custody to the parents that desired the child in the first place, but we are unsure how it will be interpreted given we are a homosexual couple.

We are good people who have gotten mixed up in a big problem.  We only want to return home to our families with our daughter.

Our finances are extremely strained.  For now, with Gordon's salary we can cover the basic living expenses in Thailand and back home in Valencia. But we have had to hire an expensive international law firm to defend ourselves from the false accusations and to fight for custody of Carmen in court. We have had hefty monthly payments to make for over a year (and don´t know when they will end :-( and we need help covering these legal expenses.

If you are willing to help us, please donate to our fund to #HelpBringCarmenHome. We are only asking for small donations, because with many small contributions we can reach our goal.  

You can also donate through Paypal using the HelpBringCarmenHome@gmail.com email address.

If you are more comfortable you can make a direct transfer to our Spanish bank account ES07 0128 0680 1501 0003 2997 or our Thai bank account 984-0-94128-3. In the concept field please put "Bring Carmen Home" with your name and beneficiary Gordon Lake or Manuel Santos.  

When we can finally leave Thailand, any remaining donations will be given to a child-focused charity in Thailand

Here are some other ways you can help us #BringCarmenHome!

  • If you have any suggestions or ideas of other ways that you could help, please contact us at HelpBringCarmenHome@gmail.com.

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Bud Lake posted a new update:
almost 2 years ago

Update #11

Finally the moment we have been waiting for is almost here. The past two weeks we have had the hearing for custody of Carmen and a judgement date has been set for April 26th. We are optimistic, but the outcome is still not certain - there is no precedence of this case and the new surrogacy law has not been applied to many other cases and none with the surrogate mother asking for custody.

We have had to increase our Fundly goal since our original goal only got us through the first few months of lawyer fees and now we are now behind in our payments.

We greatly appreciate the help of all of our supporters. If you have already donated, please do not donate anymore and just help us out by sharing our petition on your social media. If you have just found out about our situation and you would like to make a donation, please make it small...many small donations = a lot of help. Next update will be on April 26th when hopefully we can report that this nightmare is over.

Thank you so much for your continued support!

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Bud Lake posted a new update:
over 2 years ago

Update #10

https://vimeo.com/133638185
Carmen is 6 months already!

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Bud Lake posted a new update:
over 2 years ago

Update #9

Many thanks for all your support. Please follow us on Twitter. We need to be strong to be listened to.
#lovewillwin #bringcarmenhome

Muchas gracias por todo vuestro apoyo. Seguidnos en Twitter!
Cuantos más seamos más caso nos harán.
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Bud Lake posted a new update:
over 2 years ago

Update #8

We need more signatures in our change campaign!!
https://www.change.org/p/bring-carmen-home

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Bud Lake posted a new update:
over 2 years ago

Update #6

We wanted to share this beautifully letter from our friend Elena who is just 12 years old. She wrote to the surrogate to tell her what good parents we would be and how well we are doing with Álvaro...it really brought tears to our eyes.

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Bud Lake posted a new update:
over 2 years ago

Update #5

So sorry for such a delay in updating you all. Also apologies for the grossly overdue thank You’s...there are still tons of people we need to thank, we just don´t have enough hours in the day to get everything done. Poco a poco.

Things are moving, and we are getting in touch with contacts that have been provided, sending emails, talking to people, but no silver bullet has been found just yet.

We tried to meet with the surrogate one last time today and again didn´t show, but we were expecting this since we refused to bring Carmen to the meeting as she requested. So we have asked the lawyers to move ahead preparing the court case.

Also, since many of the letters and contacts we are following up with are not leading anywhere, we are going to start talking to the media. U.S.
Finally, we just launched a campaign a campaign in Change.org. Please sign and share!

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Bud Lake posted a new update:
over 2 years ago

Update #4

We just created a Change.org campaign. Please sign and share! Acabamos de crear una campaña en Change.org, por favor firma y comparte!
https://www.change.org/p/allow-carmen-to-go-home-with-her-family

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Bud Lake posted a new update:
almost 3 years ago

Update #3

Hi everyone, just a little update.

We have approved the English version of the offical complaint to be submitted to social services, so after translating it in to Thai it will be delivered next week.

We have sent letters to FL Senator Bill Nelson, FL Congressman Bill Posey, the U.S. Ambasador to Spain.

Thanks to the campaign we are getting TONS of contacts to follow-up with in Spain, in the U.S. and in Thailand. Politicians, surrogacy advocates, media connections...thank you so much. So far every letter we have written will be followed up with personal contacts in each office.

Thank you all again and again and again for all your very generous financial contributions to the campaign ...with your support we are able to have the lawyers work the hours needed to move things forward.

Please continue sharing the campaign!!!

Thanks so much,

Bud, Manuel, Álvaro and Carmen

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Bud Lake posted a new update:
almost 3 years ago

Update #2

21 months in 4 minutes...from the birth of Álvaro in India to the birth of Carmen in Thailand. Finally our family is complete, now we just have to make it home...
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Bud Lake posted a new update:
almost 3 years ago

Update #1

Thank you so much to everyone for your outpouring of support...we are complete overwhelmed with the messages of support, the finacial support and all of the ideas and contacts that people are passing to us...your are all amazing!!! Thank you so much!!!

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