Bendams Adoption

Bendams Adoption

From Tracey Bendams

We are raising money to help us adopt a baby! All donations will go directly towards our adoption costs, which could be as high as $34,500.

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Update #5

3 months ago

Hello Everyone! We just wanted to thank you all again for your support in our adoption journey. We did not extend our Fundly campaign due to some fraudulent activity. Someone in India kept using stolen credit card numbers and we were unable to block them, which ended up costing us a $15 charge back fee every time.
Head up and moving forward! We have sent our profile books out to the agencies and are waiting to be matched now. We may have another fundraiser this summer... don't have any details yet, but we will let you know!
Thanks again everyone! XOXO

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Tracey was diagnosed with PCOS at the young age of 19. What the doctors call your prime years were quickly passing by into her late 30's. She was almost ready to give up dreams of being a mother when Tracey met Brian. Brian - I never felt like I had met the right person to marry and start a family until I met Tracey. She challenges and motivates me to live life, and our life together. Having a family is one of those challenges. We've researched and tried all the conventional ways, but we knew from the beginning adoption would be a viable option.

Tracey - We had talked about adoption first and as soon as we were married we started searching for an agency. We kept running into the marriage length rule and decided to talk about fertility treatments. After a couple of unsuccessful attempts using acupuncture and taking metformin with clomid then IUI procedures with my OB... we went to the Fertility Clinic and they suggested we use a donor egg due to my old age. Nothing can really explain the pain you feel when your beautiful young doctor tells you about your geriatric eggs... I mean, I'm 40 not 80! I continued my acupuncture and tracking my temperature, cervical mucus, ovulation, and so on (I really learned a lot about my body during this past year). Something just didn't feel right about it though... and we had to really think about what was important to us. The answer was a baby. It didn't need to be created using our DNA, and even with the donor egg chances of complications due to my "senior" status still only put us at maybe 40% chance of baby. Adoption puts us at 100% chance of baby. We started looking for the right agency again and after one phone call with our adoption agency, the weight from my shoulders was gone and I was floating on cloud 9 with hopes and dreams of a family again.  

The cost of adoption is daunting and can vary. They have already spent thousands on fertility treatments and background checks and admin fees. To give you a better idea of what remains, the agency has estimated a breakdown of what the money will go towards during the rest of the adoption process.

  • $3,500 home study
  • $21,500 placement
  • $3,000 legal costs
  • $5,000 birth mother expenses 
  • $750 PER post placement supervision
  • TOTAL would be approximately $34,500 

Any help will be greatly appreciated! We hope you enjoy watching our journey and following our updates throughout the year.

All the loves,

Tracey & Brian

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Tracey Bendams posted a new update:
3 months ago

Update #5

Hello Everyone! We just wanted to thank you all again for your support in our adoption journey. We did not extend our Fundly campaign due to some fraudulent activity. Someone in India kept using stolen credit card numbers and we were unable to block them, which ended up costing us a $15 charge back fee every time.
Head up and moving forward! We have sent our profile books out to the agencies and are waiting to be matched now. We may have another fundraiser this summer... don't have any details yet, but we will let you know!
Thanks again everyone! XOXO

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Tracey Bendams posted a new update:
3 months ago

Update #4

Finished our first home visit last night! Only 3 more hours of pre placement visits, a physical, and creating our photobook then we will be ready to be matched with a brith mother! EEEK!

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Tracey Bendams posted a new update:
4 months ago

Update #3

Just a quick update. We are currently working on completing our 30 hours of parenting lessons. We are still working on the video, so if you would still like to be a part of that email me your video clips.

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Tracey Bendams posted a new update:
5 months ago

Update #2

Thank you so much for all of your love and support as we begin our adoption. With the fundraiser donations we are up to $3,136 which will go towards our Home Study and puts us one step closer!

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Tracey Bendams posted a new update:
5 months ago

Update #1

We are having a FUNdraiser Comedy SHOW! Hope you can join us.

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https://www.eventbrite.com/e/bendams-adoption-fundraiser-tickets-42156430017

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