To afford surgery so I can finish my transition and live a happier life
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Feeling grateful to have received five donations toward obtaining surgery. I still feel overwhelmed by the overall price, but hopeful as well. Thank you Majd, Casey, Martin, Nicole, and Kylie. I can't thank you enough.
Its not something I generally talk about but I'm exhausted from living with it daily. I'm almost 40 years old and have come to a crossroads: "If I don't ask for help - I will never afford it." I thought I would have had the money years ago through my work, but after getting robbed and dealing with several setbacks, things didn't turn out as planned.
I have been severely depressed for years now, and even moreso recently. So finally I made this fundraiser and really appreciate the help I've received thus far. I can't express how much it means and its giving me hope! To learn why this is important to me, please read these two letters from my therapists:

This fundraiser will help me pay for facial feminization surgery with Dr. Mayer which I need before I get the main surgery (SRS) -- you can view some of his truly amazing work here: https://www.drtobymayer.com/patient-experiences
As for SRS, my insurance might cover it. Currently working on it.
I do not want any surgeries besides these - I'm only asking for what I feel I need and nothing more. After being homeless more than 17 years this fundraiser feels like the only way I'll be able to afford this. Thank you for any help toward this expensive goal - even if its just sharing the campaign or messaging some supportive words, or supporting a campaign of another trans person who can't afford. It is a lot to ask, but these surgeries will save my life. I don't want to turn 50 and still have this be an issue. I'm ready "now" and hurting currently.
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Feeling grateful to have received five donations toward obtaining surgery. I still feel overwhelmed by the overall price, but hopeful as well. Thank you Majd, Casey, Martin, Nicole, and Kylie. I can't thank you enough.
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Well, after speaking with about 6 women who went to Dr. Mayer for this surgery (see pics in comments), today I contacted Dr. Mayer's office and filed the initial forms to get the ball rolling. I have a Zoom meeting with him on Monday! I had one with him 5 years ago when living in Lake Isabella because I thought things would be more stable, but when Kevin and my lives were upended, that stability was gone.
Now I'm grateful to have some stability again, living half the time with my parents, and the other half with my boyfriend (today is out one year anniversary!). I'm also grateful for the donations from my friends Majd and Casey.
I have no idea where the money is going to come from, so I'm just going to keep sharing this and hoping to get closer to my goal. I was very depressed this past couple weeks, and was crying last night until I finally just hit the edge and thought "I need to do something about this!" and made this fundraiser. And so far - I am feeling better. Thank you for the support, everyone - even if you don't have money the kind words and likes have meant a lot.
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