A Baby Shower For These Guys

A Baby Shower For These Guys

From Ignacio Oliveros

It's the baby shower of a lifetime! Instead of gifts, help us pay down our huge surrogacy balance before these babies' cosmic airplane is scheduled to land in October. And we'll give a gift back to YOU!

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THANK YOU FOR STOPPING BY.

IN LIEU OF DIAPERS, ANY DOLLAR AMOUNT HELPS!

OUR STORY:

After years of ups and downs we finally got pregnant on our third IVF transfer this past March! And we recently were blessed with the news that we are having twin boys! Our dream now is to finish paying off the considerable price tag of IVF and surrogacy and bring our babies home once they arrive. 

WHO WE ARE?

Hi, we're Ulises and Ignacio, two guys on a journey to bring our babies into this world through gestational surrogacy. What's gestational surrogacy you ask? Please see the FAQ section below.

So we've been crazy in love with each other for over 12 years, and with love, sweat, and tears, we have managed to create a cute little life for ourselves here in Long Beach, California. We both come from large beautiful families and are blessed with a wonderful support system of friends. Yet, something big still feels like it's missing.

WHAT WE NEED & WHAT YOU GET

On two teachers salaries the cost of surrogacy in the U.S. was beyond our means. Typically in vitro fertilization (IVF) plus surrogacy with a well established agency in this country costs between $125,000 and $200,000. If there are complications than that costs can go considerably higher.

WHAT WE CHOSE INSTEAD:

We chose to do our entire process in Mexico because the costs are about half of what they are in the U.S. Our agency is Care Surrogacy Mexico. The plan we chose, which includes IFV, surrogacy, egg donor, and agency fees, is approximately $57,600. This does not include travel, government documents, miscellaneous expenses, and unforeseen medical complications such as the one we experienced.

OUR GOAL IS TO FINISH PAYING OFF THE BALANCE DUE:

$13,000

Which include:

  • $5,000 - Surrogacy 1st Trimester fees
  • $5,250 - Surrogacy 2nd Trimester fees  
  • $2,750 - Hospital fees/Documents  

OUR GIFT TO YOU:

  • CONTRIBUTE ANY AMOUT YOU CAN - Any amount is valuable and appreciated!
  • $50 CONTRIBUTION - Receive a limited edition Joy Candle made by us in our own kitchen! All natural 100% soy wax, cotton wicks, and fragranced with Ulises' unique blend of citron, mandarin, and pomelo.
  • $100 CONTRIBUTION - Receive a limited edition Joy Candle and Joy T-Shirt designed by us. The T-shirt is inspired by the feeling we are all destined to experience: JOY. It's made of a soft cotton triblend with a modern fit in both men's and women's sizes.

FAQ:

WHY DO SURROGACY?

To be sure this journey poses many risks. And nobody said starting a family for a gay couple would ever be easy.  

  • Financially, the enormous stress to raise the money to pay for this dream, and to pay back what we've already exhausted from our savings, is real. But we are strong, determined, and best of all, we have a plan.
  • On an emotional and mental level, it's already begun to take its toll; the not knowing, the waiting, the distance, the lost embryos, the failed pregnancy...and to think, we are barely at the beginning. But, God is great. And we hold on to each other and we dream of our baby.

But guess what? We will overcome these challenges because we are blessed with a strong support system of a really big family, as well as an out-of-this-world-love that we share with our friends and loved ones. Plus God is on our side!

WHY DON'T YOU JUST ADOPT?

It's a common question and we understand how a gay couple would get that a lot. We would love to adopt in the future. But, like all of God's creatures we have a strong desire to leave our legacy, both in DNA form and in LOVE form. We definitely plan on having many children and adoption is something we will look to in the future.  

WHY DO YOU WANT TO BE PARENTS?

We are bursting with love and joy for each other and we want to share that by creating our own family. There's a baby out there waiting for us in a cosmic waiting room and we're ready to meet him or her! We plan on nurturing, protecting, celebrating, teaching, playing, honoring, and jus loving the heck out of our kid! 

WHY DID YOU CHOOSE TO DO THE SURROGACY IN MEXICO?

To save money. Costs of IVF and surrogacy in Mexico are typically half of what they would be here in the United States.

WHO'S SPERM DID YOU USE?

This answer we're keeping to ourselves. Shhhhh.

IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD IT WHY DO IT?

To be sure, we can definitely afford to raise a child, care for our child, and give that  child the very best life possible. That we can do. What is expensive is the "getting him here". It's like we're trying to buy a really expensive interstellar plane ticket to get our baby here to us. That's the part we need financial help with.

HOW MUCH DOES IVF WITH SURROGACY COST?

In the U.S. the cost range between $125,000 and $200,000 with a well established agency that can guide you through the entire process. Our surrogacy costs with Care Surrogacy in Mexico, when all is said and done, will roughly be around $75,000, barring any major complications.

WHAT AGENCY DID YOU USE?

Care Surrogacy Mexico http://www.surrogacymexico.com/

WHAT DOES YOUR SURROGATE MOTHER LOOK LIKE?

We get this question often when people confuse our surrogate mother with the egg donor. Our egg donor and surrogate mother are two different women. Our surrogate mother will have no DNA connection to our baby. She is graciously offering only her womb (and her strong spirit). Our egg donor is an anonymous donor.

If you cannot contribute there are other ways you can help:

  • Spread the word and make some noise about our campaign! www.ababyfortheseguys.com
  • Continue to love us and guide us along our journey!

With Love and Gratitude, Ignacio & Ulises.

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